 #2 (permalink) Fri Jul 07, 2006 9:11 am People, who are pushy |
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Hi Michael
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| How do you think you could reach that anybody like that young man listen to you, not only to make you a favour but to have a favour from that his own? |
There is no way (to impose good advice :) ) - unless someone is not ready to listen to you, to acknowledge your superiority in something (competency, wisdom, etc)
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to treat you as a significant person for him/her and trust you enough (= have enduring faith that you don’t destroy his/her ego while teaching).
My own experience tells that only proficiency & wishes to put somebody right (for example, my teen-age children :) ) is not enough. Even though you are ready to take the lion's share of responsibility for the results :)
Many times in my life I was forced to deal with, sometimes sad or annoying, results of thoughtless actions and immature decisions of other people who refused to listen to good advice (mine :) or someone’s else). Facing with their great aplomb - before and seeing ‘hiding eyes’ - after.
Many times I myself did the same :) ;)
This taught me :) that:
1. I can’t - and never will be able! - to control and ‘to put right’ the life and all people around me. And it’s entirely my own problem how to deal with my own annoyance because of that.
2. Learning is very individual and very… intimate process, and we, people, are very selective in it.
Not every excellent teacher (or just wise and experienced person) can become a good teacher for everyone, and each of us has full rights to choose teachers for ourselves - to learn from - or just to choose learning by trials (and many people prefer to get own experience by cut-and-try approach albeit it could be painful and uncomfortable for them and for other people).
Tamara
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