About virginity

[Conchita]

[Jamie (K)]

[Jamie (K)]

[Cooliegirly]

This is getting so off the topic now.

[Jamie (K)]

[Sunflower]

Hi Mnd,

I'm wondering why you chose this topic to talk about. In my opinion, virginity is quite important and required in some countries, especially African culture. Once I read a news about an African girl who lost her virginity because of being raped. She was insulted and lived in stigma.

Is it important to know who is virgin? Does it kill people when they lose their virginity? Maybe virginity identifies purity of a woman. How about a man? I think the best thing is to sincerely love only one person.

Thanks!

[Sunflower]

The reason they lie is because I don't want to be considered non-human in their culture.

[Sunflower]

HI

[Jamie (K)]

We're told to think of all cultures as equal, but there is something very bad about a culture that will persecute and stigmatize a woman because she has been raped. There is also something sick about a culture in which doctors can make big business sewing up women's private parts to make them appear to be "virgins" after those parts have been torn through sports, or maybe even a foolish affair with some man who promised to marry her. You'll notice also that cultures that treat women this way don't stigmatize men in any similar way.

Yesterday I had a conversation with two Muslims, one from Iraq and one from Yemen, who believed that women should be killed if they have ever slept with a man out of wedlock. I told them that under Christian tradition, killing a woman for something like this is forbidden, and that in most religions they try to change the person's heart and behavior. These two were completely disgusted by the whole idea that anyone who has sinned might reform and become a good person. They believed that the whole idea of conversion in this way was sick, wrong and impossible. So, it appeared that they thought it was healthy to murder a woman for what she has done wrong, but that it was not healthy to let the woman live and convince her not to do wrong. I think there is something wrong with this.

[Sunflower]

I feel that is not a healthy idea to kill a woman for losing her virginity. It sounds like when she does this wrong thing once in her life, her life will be ended! Or sometimes that thing happens accidentally, according to Jamie.

It might not be necessary for women to get a surgery to be virgin again. Maybe lots of women are living under this threat. Where's the equality between men and women? It's easily said but not done!!! Who's perfect? Who's never done something wrong in life? Maybe God never does, does He?

Thanks!

[Mnd]

hi sunflower

i just want to thank you for your exciting reply because most of the replies i was reading were going astray.
so tell me is it fair for someone who haven't involved in sexual activties to be married to a lady who has lost her virginity
i am an african person who values virginity

[Jamie (K)]

[Jan]

[Tamara]

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[Eda:))]

Hello Jan:)
You are from Baltic Sea, aren`t you? Nice to meet you.
eda:))