Do people still get married?

[Sandra Rita Da Silva]

Hello Alan!

The trend in my country is the same that you related on this story, but there a lot of people that prefer to get married. Some of them, because of the religion, others because they dream with this day (mainly women).
Presonally, I prefer the tendency of these days. I think, we live the same way married or not, we have to study, to work etc, but with more freedom and it is easier to spilt up when love finishes. We have to take care when we have children...
Well, I have some doubts:
1) What is the meaning of rumbustious:
2) " " " " " olden; and finally,
3) " " " " " G.O.M. .

I have one more doubt that is a sentence I found in a book:
"We "GOT TALKING" to some students" (again participles)

May you help me?

Thank you very much for all.

Sandra Brasil

[Someone]

Personally I see no inconveniences in getting married. Of course if you in the very beginning do not have plans to divorce. :-)

In my country it's getting popular to "just live together". It's not a family - it's partnership, Alan is right. Very often I hear different reasons for not getting married yet: not enough money is the most brilliant one. As if money can ever be enough :-D.

People who want family in my country just get married.
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[Kitosdad]

My thought is that people ought to get married if they really love one another.
Marriage is a commitment to be true to each other and to share life's ups and downs.

If you are not sufficiently committed to do this then marriage is a definite no-no.

If you do decide to just live together, then for heavens sake forget about having children. It is not fair for them to have to go through life being called a bastard.

As regards being married in a church in a white gown.
If you are not a virgin then you are betraying all that the white gown is supposed to signify.

These are my views. You don't have to agree with me. This is only what I believe.

Kitos.
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[Shah44]

it is essential that people do marry for a more stronger and more realiable relationship however if some countries allow thier young ones to to have a taste of it before marriage to see if the intended marriage would prove fruitful then there is no problem in it.

[Natashkevich]

I am from Bulgaria.A lot of people do not get married.The statistics show but 51% from children was born in family without marriage.

[AndrewB]

Well, friends,

all the statistics in European countries and the experiences there show us that traditional marriages won't have a great future. Life is changing all those things, and conventions cannot be kept for eternity.
I think we have to "crawl out" from our small families to the bigger family, and this is all of us. New structures will be created...
Marriage is good for state and government. If you marry you have to pay a lot of money which you can spend for more useful things or experiences. Some years later you will get divorced, and then you have to pay again. Divorce is also good for state and government. For lawyers and justice. Not for common people.
If I love a woman why shouldn't I live with her a bit longer than only some weeks? Why shouldn't I raise children with her? There's no need for a certificate of the society or church.
And if children grow up among parents who do not talk to each other, it won't help them anyway, let these parents be married or not.
Married people are easy to handle for the ruling system, unmarried ones not. That's why government support way which lead into marriages again...
Think about this!
And have a nice evening,
Andreas

[Someone]

Andreas, do married people in Germany pay some sort of tax for being married?
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[Ralf]

[AndrewB]

Hello, Someone,

don't try to misunderstand me. Everyone who marries, pays a big wedding party, pays a lot for rings, for gown, and even for all the administrative documents. This is a small price. The costs of divorce a higher, but I never would have them, if I was not married.

Have a good night,
Andreas

[Political Lurker]

I have actually noticed a pattern in recent years with friends who have been living happily together for 20 years or more without a problem.. then for some reason they get married - the whole vib just changes and they split up shortly after. Seen it happen a good few times.

My brother got married to his long term partner and I didn't even know(they just went into the town hall together)
This was because children were talking in school asking other kids if their parents were married etc
My nervous 8 year old Nephew had asked my brother and he just replied yes.
When they realized it was a big deal to him they married a few days later in private.

Thats a cool reason for getting married - Christ we all know how hurtful kids can be

But other than that I would be more for just living and sharing respecting etc without the "Certificate" - Does that make sense?
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[Someone]

[AndrewB]

Well, Someone,
you are right I guess. There are some subjects I do not like at all, but that's a thing of feelings. Because I have been married for 30 years and raised 3 children, but after that we parted. Divorce is impossible for me in the moment, because it is too expensive.
And what they take for a "marriage certificate" - as much as I know - today is 10 times more than during GDR times. So I have my thoughts about that.

Have a nice day,
Andreas

[Someone]

I'm sorry for you Andrew. Hope your life sets up again.

Asking just out of curiosity. How much do they take in Germany for a marriage and a divorce?
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[AndrewB]

What is your question about, Someone?
The charge of the certificate, or what? It is different in all the federal countries. My daughter paid about 80 Euros, I guess, but that was six years ago, in Sachsen (Saxonia). Concerning divorce I know that it depends on the value of your whole property. Then it is always some per cent of that for the court. The certificate of the divorce is "only" about 300 Euro, and it might be possible to get it via internet. (Maybe I would be able to pay just 300 Euro, but there are many other things which have priority, because they are really necessary!)
For me it doesn't matter, because I guess, I will never marry again; and that's way a certificated divorce is not important anyway. I am living parted from my wife - we both have agreed in doing so - and we won't bother each other. Now I have got a lady-friend again, and it is an easy living without any blessings of state or church.

Have a nice day,
Andreas

[Someone]

I see. I thought that it's just in my country government wants to push its hand as deep into the citizens' pockets as it can. Fortunately they still didn't come to what you say is in Germany. My wife's parents divorced five years ago very easily without paying much.
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