Obligations of a woman and a man in marriage...

[Cristina]

I agree a lot with Englishuser I believe that the gender has nothing to do with the kind of job or behaviour someone is going to have,in Latin America is common to see men working while women take care of the kids and householdchores,in mycase for example I've been taking care of my two kids,7 and 2 years old until now,specially because it was difficult for us to pay a maid,now we have one and I want to work again,and when I asked my husband for some money to pay my transportation and food in my first month of work(until I receive my first salary) he said it wasn't his obligation,that made me think a lot,I have an illness that needs constantly be checked and he haven't given me the money to check my illness,for more than a year,he says he doesn't have money,then I wanted to cut my hair,he said again it wasn't his obligation,.....in this moment I believe my husband is not someone I can trust in,and that I need to think in myself grow as human being and restart with new challenges in my life, be prepared to whatever that comes next.
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[Prezbucky]

to clarify, in case anyone doesn't know:

55 KG = 121 lbs.

(2.2 x 55)
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[NinaZara]

Hello Englishuser,

[Prezbucky]

As for me (this boy), I'd party with both of you (Nina and E'user).

I might have to bring some headphones or ear plugs, but it'd be a blast anyway (or at least up to the point at which I'd need to insert said plugs/phones).

hehe
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[Dark Magician]

Hi everybody

these Hot snapshots , pay my attention to this subject.

personally, I prefer to work most day, and when I come back to my home find my wife wait me at home.

sure, I love she dress to me her feminine clothes . and I'm with this viewpoint .... feminine clothes for women and male clothes for men.

I think If I get married My wife can work out door and her money for her just and I'll pay all requirements our home.

finally, which changes are positive for woman?

when she stay at her kingdom .

_______________Or______________

when she must work, If she want to earn some money for her life.

regards,
Mba
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[Englishuser]

Hi Nina,

You claim that most women enjoy doing feminine things. How do you define 'feminine'? How do we know that women enjoy or seem to be enjoying doing feminine things for biological rather than cultural reasons?

You also state that men and women maintained different roles in the past. Studies I have read on the subject claim that women used to hunt as early as in the Stone Age.

It is true that the average man is physically stronger than the average woman, but does this really matter these days in all honesty? Most professions traditionally held by males have become significantly less physically demanding, and many of them never were physically demanding at all.

You said that women wear trousers out of practical reasons whereas men who wear womenswear do it because they feel they are "women trapped in men's bodies". It is true that women often wear trousers because it's more practical and would even be considered stylish. But I believe you are wrong in claiming that men wear dresses only if they feel they are or should have been women.

A man might wear a dress for several reasons, one of which is because he wants to show people he doesn't care about norms imposed by the society he lives in. Men have worn articles of clothing resembling dresses in many cultures. This is a cultural, not a psychological thing.

The concept of a "woman trapped in a man's body" has to do with transsexual women. Most transsexual women would not wear dresses in public while still looking male. Many transsexuals choose to undergo gender reassignment therapy. This condition has nothing whatsoever to do with men who cross-dress for other reasons.

I think it is important to teach our children that it's all right to be a tomboy or a sissy, although ideally such derogative terms oughtn't be used at all because gender in itself shouldn't influence the way you are supposed to behave. Men and women are different in that they play different roles in the process of reproduction. But this does not mean men should automatically be breadwinners.

Englishuser

P.S. No, I haven't met them all, but I think the sample you were referring to was much too small for us to be able to make any valid conclusions.

[Englishuser]

Hi Dark magician,

Why do you think your gender should determine what clothes you are to wear? Who defines what 'masculine' or 'feminine' clothing is supposed to be? And why do you think you should be the breadwinner of your family?

Englishuser

[Cristina]

[Englishuser]

Cristina wrote:

[Cristina]

[Dark Magician]

Hi,Englishuser!

I guess you know there difference of organic between woman's body and men's body, so I can't imagine any man can dress feminine clothes,it sounds scary.

about breadwinner of family?

that's very easy.

because when I was child, I used to see my father pay most requirements our home, and I think he do what he must do for his family, and I'll do as my father. simply these are our east traditions, and we (women & men) honor in these traditions.

best wishes
Mba
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[Rosalisa]

Hi Englishuser,

[Rosalisa]

And Dark Magician, as the roles of gender change, perhaps your spouse will share half of the home requirements. You don't need to do it all alone.
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[Englishuser]

Hi Dark magician,

I really cannot see why it matters what kind of clothes someone wears. Why on earth would it be wrong for a man to wear feminine clothes? I feel the need to repeat my question: Who defines 'feminine' in the first place? It is true that there are many biological and genetic differences between men and women. But these differences have nothing to do with what clothes you may wear!

You state that you stick to certain stereotypes out of respect for tradition. I dislike the idea of my being controlled by former generations in this way. What if my ancestors permitted women being burnt at the stake? Does that mean I should continue pursuing women the way they did? I think we need to realise that we need to question and scrutinise what our parents do/did. We could then keep up traditions that promote equal opportunity, and get rid of the rest.

Englishuser

[Dark Magician]

Hi, Englishuser!

I'm may not agree with you about clothes's matter,because I think every gender, try to show himself in nice appearance.
and any gender (feminine or masculine) have respective behaviour do as soon as possible on release these differences for be characterise on another gender, and this behaviour can you see it, through fuss one of two genders in kind of clothes.

I don't try escalation with you but I say what I think true.

about traditions,
yes... you are right, there some of traditions are very bad,but that not mean all traditions has scary Ideas, and we must face all these concerns and try to replace bad traditions to new good habits.
of course we have to attention between bad traditions and good traditions in our society.

finally, I think I said in first post here