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What's your nationality, Nic?
I think I've gone too far that Jamie says I'm all the obscenity, I should be punished.
Yeah I do think in the porn it belittles women's dignity, the male performers take the women like they are toys or fleshjacks, which though turns persons on, it's not the right sex way that men don't respect women. I know it therefore I will play sports instead of watching porn (little by little). :-)
By the way, one more of the demerits of watching porn is that it makes people feel themselves pathetic.(you know because of what) :-) |
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| #18 (permalink) Fri Aug 24, 2007 4:17 am How did you learn to deal with people? |
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What's your nationality, Nic?
I think I've gone too far that Jamie says I'm all the obscenity, I should be punished.
Yeah I do think in the porn it belittles women's dignity, the male performers take the women like they are toys or fleshjacks, which though turns persons on, it's not the right sex way that men don't respect women. I know it therefore I will play sports instead of watching porn (little by little).
By the way, one more of the demerits of watching porn is that it makes people feel themselves pathetic.(you know because of what) |
Hi Edison,
Please excuse me for having kept you lonesome here.
Now I can't tell you yet what country I'm from. :)
Who called you all the obcenity? Who told you that you should be punished? Bring him up here and ask him what he knows about this himself.
You're right about the disadvantages of watching it. It makes people feel really pathetic. So spend time wisely as we live only once. :D
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| #19 (permalink) Fri Aug 24, 2007 4:30 am How did you learn to deal with people? |
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Ahhh..haahh...Edison, I know why Jamie told you off. Well, your joke was a bit unacceptable... :)
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| #20 (permalink) Sat Aug 25, 2007 8:11 am How did you learn to deal with people? |
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Ok, I knew it, that kind of joke should be somewhere else like SCHOOL (kidding)
You can't tell me because you're from China? (actually that's fine, what I hate is the government, not a citizen like you except someone who is not anxious for peace between two of us) |
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| #21 (permalink) Sun Aug 26, 2007 3:53 am How did you learn to deal with people? |
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Ok, I knew it, that kind of joke should be somewhere else like SCHOOL (kidding)
You can't tell me because you're from China? (actually that's fine, what I hate is the government, not a citizen like you except someone who is not anxious for peace between two of us) |
I think that kind of joke shouldn't be somewhere else like school either. I would spank my male friends if I caught them saying such words. :twisted: I would also inform the director if they said it. :twisted: :lol: There should be a limit of it. But you can say it with your very close friends, though. :roll:
No, I'm not from China. I have very brownish skin so the clue is I'm not from China and I'm not sad at all to be a represenative of my country. :D "Yen Shi Chu Xin Ban Shan", said Confucius. People are kind when they are born. :D
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| #22 (permalink) Sun Aug 26, 2007 14:12 pm How did you learn to deal with people? |
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Torsten,
We had a subject at school that was called "Living skills". Communication was a part of it. Was it useful? To a certain point, yes. But did it prepare us to face the world? Hardly. One thing I learned, not all people follow the same rules.
I would say, at this point of my life, most of my social skills I picked up while attending the university (which I consider to be one of the most important time of my life).
Now I've been working for almost 5 months, I have to confess, dealing with people is very hard, especially older people(bosses) and I don't believe I am saying this, especially when you are a woman.
Oh yes, one trick I learnt, when somebody is giving you a hard time,smile, smile, smile! It's contagious!
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| #23 (permalink) Mon Aug 27, 2007 4:37 am How did you learn to deal with people? |
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Hi Nina,
Nice to see you again. Have you been back to Malaysia?
The job world has difficultires to face especially when one is a woman. There is some prejudice, a communication problem.
You're right. Smile, smile, smile....and I've also heard...yawning is contagious too. :D
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| #24 (permalink) Mon Aug 27, 2007 7:55 am How did you learn to deal with people? |
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| Nicholas wrote: |
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Ok, I knew it, that kind of joke should be somewhere else like SCHOOL (kidding)
You can't tell me because you're from China? (actually that's fine, what I hate is the government, not a citizen like you except someone who is not anxious for peace between two of us) |
I think that kind of joke shouldn't be somewhere else like school either. I would spank my male friends if I caught them saying such words. :twisted: I would also inform the director if they said it. :twisted: :lol: There should be a limit of it. But you can say it with your very close friends, though. :roll:
No, I'm not from China. I have very brownish skin so the clue is I'm not from China and I'm not sad at all to be a represenative of my country. :D "Yen Shi Chu Xin Ban Shan", said Confucius. People are kind when they are born. :D |
You're in Taiwan as well? If you're not from China, then you must be in here, my hometown or how do you know Confucious. |
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| #25 (permalink) Mon Aug 27, 2007 15:56 pm How did you learn to deal with people? |
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| Rosalisa wrote: |
Hi Nina,
Nice to see you again. Have you been back to Malaysia? |
Yes, I just came back from heaven! :D
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| The job world has difficultires to face especially when one is a woman. There is some prejudice, a communication problem. |
I hate to blame it on my gender. If anything, my being a woman has given me a lot of advantages. The only drawback that I am facing right now is whether I should be a Japanese to work in a Japanese company or just prove to myself that I can work like the Japanese without compromising my identity.
When it comes to work, I don't face many problems. People don't argue with figures, my senior welcomes me to disagree with him anytime. But, building a relationship and trust with your co-workers is not only done in the work environment. You need to attend parties and mingle. My usual problem is when some people refuse to understand that I do not drink.
Drinking is a very important culture in Japan and they just do not get it why certain people do not drink. And I am talking about a small group of Japanese. Many, upon hearing this, will respect you for your ability to "abstain" yourself from drinking. Which to me is nothing at all, because I never drank.
One time, a BIG boss poured me (HE poured me) a glass of Shochu (Japanese liquor), and I blurted, "Sorry, I am allergic to alcohol." I had to lie, but I think he knows. Come on! Who is allergic to alcohol? But that was the only thing I could think of that time.
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| You're right. Smile, smile, smile....and I've also heard...yawning is contagious too. :D |
It is totally understandable. I think imitating is a process of learning. I think it's our subconcious mind. When we see something, our body imitate it because subconciously, our body is learning.
Oh yes, nice to see you around too. |
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| #26 (permalink) Mon Aug 27, 2007 18:01 pm How did you learn to deal with people? |
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| Torsten wrote: |
OK, this might be an odd question but let's talk how to deal with people. When and how did you learn how to interact and communicate with people? I mean, we all learned maths, science, languages and other important things in school. We got wrote test papers, passed exams and got grades on all kinds of subjects. What about "interpersonal communication"?
Did you have a subject like that at school? Or did you just pick up some behavioral patterns from your patterns when you were a kid? Of course we learn from dealing with people on a daily basis but is a conscious effort or do we simple "adjust" to each situation as it occurs? |
Hi Torsten,
I agree with u that almost school does not teach interpersonal communication skill neither in my country. We have to look for it in books and on internet. I found that the theory is different from reality. I have spent time for applying these theory to life but about 50% is effective. For example, I read the book that teaches us how to win someone heart (translated from Dale Carnegie). Some of the examples is very reality and easy to remember, may be it's a key. However, to own these experiences needs a long time for practice. :wink: |
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| #27 (permalink) Tue Aug 28, 2007 8:53 am How did you learn to deal with people? |
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| Hi, Nina, would the gender be the factor on promotions in Japan nowaday? |
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| #28 (permalink) Tue Aug 28, 2007 15:58 pm How did you learn to deal with people? |
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| edison_chen_e_c wrote: |
| Hi, Nina, would the gender be the factor on promotions in Japan nowaday? |
No,of course not. What made you say that?
I can't speak for the whole Japan, but I don't think my company is like that. Why would they hire me then?
True, there is no woman bosses in my company yet. Merely because there is no woman to be promoted. Most ladies in my company do secretarial work. In the process department I am the only female engineer (though I really cannot call myself an engineer yet).
One thing I realized, it takes time, even for the boys.
By that time, hmmm...sayounara!
This is not disloyal, but we have to be smart and see what they can offer us. |
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| #29 (permalink) Wed Aug 29, 2007 4:02 am How did you learn to deal with people? |
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| You're in Taiwan as well? If you're not from China, then you must be in here, my hometown or how do you know Confucious. |
No, I'm not from China or Taiwan, Edison. It isn't hard to learn about "Confucious" if you take a philosophy class. :D I want to correct the sentence mentioned above. It's "Yen Zhi Chu, Xing Ben Shan". :D
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| #30 (permalink) Wed Aug 29, 2007 11:03 am How did you learn to deal with people? |
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No,of course not. What made you say that?
I can't speak for the whole Japan, but I don't think my company is like that. Why would they hire me then?
True, there is no woman bosses in my company yet. Merely because there is no woman to be promoted. Most ladies in my company do secretarial work. In the process department I am the only female engineer (though I really cannot call myself an engineer yet).
One thing I realized, it takes time, even for the boys.
By that time, hmmm...sayounara!
This is not disloyal, but we have to be smart and see what they can offer us. |
Ok, I see...
pretty LADIES with hot male BOSS, hehe |
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