If you were me would you accept the invitation?

[Aleaf]

Hey net friends:

Haven't come here for a while. How are you doing?

Well, here I have a question and hope somebody can share it with me.

One of my former classmates told me she would get married in a few days later and she had invited all of my classmates to attend her wedding ceremony. During these years she never contacted with me despite that she has my phone number. We were just classmate and not close friend. You know people have to give the new couple a red letter as wedding present.

So, if you were me ,would you accept the invitation or just ignore it?

Thanks
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[Lost_Soul]

If I felt like partying, I'd come. You definitely dont have to show up because she's not your close friend. If you feel like doing something else, don't go - she wont hold it against you.

[Edison_Chen_e_c]

Yes, I do!!! (all right I know I'm not the groom )

Though your haven't been very close before, you can still go to their wedding to share the happiness she gonna have, it speads. You will feel that happiness as well so why not just go with a big smile?

[Aleaf]

hey:
I think it is very generous of you guys and seems I am a little curmudgeonly.Maybe it is the different culture some of my classmates have firmly told me:"I won't go to the ceremony." Because in many chinese's opinion it is nonsense to attend a person's wedding who is not close to you. Not to mention of presenting red letter to such a person.But to me I am not so sure about it in fact i like such an occassion.~~

What will be taken as a present in your country? Money?
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[M1mohammad]

Hello

When is the wedding ceremony?

[Aleaf]

m1mohammad:

Please do prepare a HUGE red letter and you will be welcomed on September 16:D
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[Puppy29]

In my opinion, I'll come.

[Pamela]

Hi aleaf,
I’ve been in situations of that ilk for many a time. I can remember just few classmates I am on friendly terms with. But nevertheless, when having time, I am liable to accept the invitation from any of my comrades..But in general I try to find a pretext for refusal as weddings, birthday parties and get-togethers… are not the places I enjoy visiting.

I don't think it's an impediment if someone deems it inappropriate/improper to visit a person you are not so close with. To be honest, I never take note of what other people consider right or wrong save for those who are supposedly intelligent. I have a head on my shoulders and act according to my own principles and preferences. But in your case it’s ultimately up to you to make a choice.