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Sat Oct 20, 2007 15:17 pm How do you feel about this...? |
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Hi
I'm still persisting in my school's life. I have been searching for answers to what I am wondering about.
In classes, I try to engage in every activity my teachers/lecturers do. When it comes to marks, I don't get them high. When my friends see that I don't get the top score, they are surprised about the result. Their surprise also upsets me, obviously. Sometimes, I care about someone's expectation about me, when I in fact, don't want myself to do that. For me, I don't care much about whether I will get the top score. I don't get jealous of my friends who are a bit silent when their talk/opinion is required and get the score higher than mine. But I am wondering about myself and why I can't get the top score/mark or almost the highest score... I just don't like one thing. When a teacher or somebody looks at your studies, they usually look at your mark, if it's good(low or high). They don't look at how well you can practice out your knowledge at school. Even when people/students here apply for a scholarship, what is looked at/inspected first is their mark........
Well....what should I say? How did you deal with it in your school's life? Should the mark be considered very important in classes?  |
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Nicholas I'm here quite often ;-)

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Sat Oct 20, 2007 16:40 pm How do you feel about this...? |
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Hi Nicholas,
I've often asked myself the same questions. Sometimes it's down to the teacher, sometimes to a misconception on your side, sometimes you underperform because you are too eager. Or there are other factors. Until I was 16, I was a very good student. Then my results at school deteriorated, because I started developing interests that kept me from focussing on school. When I then did my BA at university, I just about scraped the degree. But I managed to do my MA afterwards, and I did rather well.
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Sun Oct 21, 2007 12:14 pm How do you feel about this...? |
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| Ralf wrote: | Hi Nicholas,
I've often asked myself the same questions. Sometimes it's down to the teacher, sometimes to a misconception on your side, sometimes you underperform because you are too eager. Or there are other factors. Until I was 16, I was a very good student. Then my results at school deteriorated, because I started developing interests that kept me from focussing on school. When I then did my BA at university, I just about scraped the degree. But I managed to do my MA afterwards, and I did rather well.
Maybe you could check out this link for getting some advice. Click here. |
What you said might be right, Ralf. Perhaps, I usually get too eager to do the tests. Sometimes I do them so fast that I don't need to go over them again. That's very bad, isn't it?
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Nicholas I'm here quite often ;-)

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Sun Oct 21, 2007 14:26 pm How do you feel about this...? |
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Hi Nicholas,
Don't be too hard on yourself and (I know this is such a cliche) but just take one day at a time and stay focus. Please don't worry yourself on getting the highest score. It is not the most important thing. Enjoy school and seize the moment. I wish I did. I was an uptight student when I was in school, always eager to please my parents and teachers. When I look back, I think I missed so much fun that my friends had but it's OK, I get where I wanted to be, now. Every body has his/her own talent.
Maybe comparing your marks with other people's isn't the best thing. I think it is more important that you are doing better than before, that you are making progress. _________________ Okotteru Papa mo suki dakedo, nikoniko yasashii Papa ha mo~tto suki! |
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NinaZara I'm here quite often ;-)

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Mon Oct 22, 2007 11:59 am How do you feel about this...? |
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| NinaZara wrote: | Hi Nicholas,
Don't be too hard on yourself and (I know this is such a cliche) but just take one day at a time and stay focus. Please don't worry yourself on getting the highest score. It is not the most important thing. Enjoy school and seize the moment. I wish I did. I was an uptight student when I was in school, always eager to please my parents and teachers. When I look back, I think I missed so much fun that my friends had but it's OK, I get where I wanted to be, now. Every body has his/her own talent.
Maybe comparing your marks with other people's isn't the best thing. I think it is more important that you are doing better than before, that you are making progress. |
Hi Nina, Yes, after thinking again and again, I don't want to feel hard on myself. I hate to be unhappy. Yes, Nina, I want to tell myself that too. That is, to make most of today and be happy....but my parents and friends always expect the best out of me. I dare not break my parents' heart by not doing the best at school. But sooner or later I want to think better of it. Right, Nina, I'm afraid in the future I would regret missing so much fun right now due to getting unhappy and so much concerned about the highest marks or something. I want to do best but at the same time I want to be happy. Now I believe it's worth trying more than crying over that. Right?
Yes, I feel that now I'm doing better than better. I learn more than before but I try harder, I'll be better as well.
thanks for your advice.  |
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Nicholas I'm here quite often ;-)

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Mon Oct 22, 2007 16:46 pm How do you feel about this...? |
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Don't mention it  _________________ Okotteru Papa mo suki dakedo, nikoniko yasashii Papa ha mo~tto suki! |
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NinaZara I'm here quite often ;-)

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Tue Oct 23, 2007 15:51 pm How do you feel about this...? |
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I look at it like I look at going to the gym. There are a lot of guys who go to the gym and want everyone to look at how strong they are , so they put lots of weights on the bar and using and way possible lift the weight, but the problem is that there form is terrible and because of that they aren't getting stronger, if they stopped caring about others looking at them and lost their pride they would probably be able to become as strong as they wanted
I live in Japan and there are lots of people who study japanese and take the tests, they study for these tests and sure they end up passing but then when we go out together their japanese sounds terrible, why? Because they were studying how to pass a japanese test not how to speak/communicate in japanese. _________________ 福山市 英会話 |
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