TOEFL essay sample: Divorce

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Divorce

Nowadays, divorce is a popular tendency with many married people. They get so many problems and think they should divorce. With someone, divorce is a bad way to help them escape the other, but it still has bad effects. In some cases divorce can be better for everyone including the children. Many times when there is an abusive spouse involved divorce is not only the best answer it is the only answer.

After living together for a number of years, some married couples begin to have problem that they cannot overcome. Parents spend so much time for works than for family. Both of them want to earn money because they think they can control the other and their family. Besides, they think money is the best way to take care their children while they are not always beside their children. Moreover, they think their children need money than anything else they can do. On the other hand, they change the way they are both no longer fit with each other. They have spent so much time for their works so they don’t have enough time to share with the other. In addition, after long time live in one roof, they know the other’s defects that they did not know before. If so, they think they got married wrong person. Furthermore, they always want to control the other so that is an easy way to get fight.

Also, they recognize that they make bad effects and terrible environment to their children. One spouse refuses to discipline kids. Besides, they always talk negatively about the other with the kids. They want their kids think more terrible about the other. They also make their kids scare them and the life because they always fight together. All of things they affect their children’s lives, so they think they divorce is the best choice.

After married couple divorce, immediate effects will occur such as hurt, anger, and confusion. With adults, they will feel free because they will think they will be freedom and no one will control their lives anymore. Moreover, they will easy to find out another one to fit with them. In contrast, their children will get some chances in their lives and their thinking. Children will come to believe this is how growing act and they will do like that in their future. They will also experience physical effects as well as emotional effects like headaches and stomachaches. They will begin having a hard time getting along with their friends and become depressed. Next, they will often experience an emotional loss of their parents and many of them perceive it as rejection. Finally, divorce can affect their chance to go to college and their ability to have a good marriage in the future.

The long-term effects of divorce tend to be more adverse than the short-term effects. First, the adults will feel hurt and lack someone. They will need someone to share with them everything in their life. They will have to face everything alone. Moreover, they will not pay attention on their jobs like before divorce. Besides, their children will also be affected. They will have bad impression with marriage. They will act like their parents and not believe in love anymore. Furthermore, they will have negative opinion of their personal relationships, so they will become more stressful and upset.

Although divorce sometimes is the only way to solve problem between married couple, it is not the best way to do. If the married people find out another way to help them, I think they should avoid that way. In some cases, the married people with children who are no longer compatible should get a divorce.