One vs He; He or She or We

[Butterfly]

Hey peoples, I have this question on my mind. Thanks in advance. I will wait for your responses.

So, I have experienced a serious difficulty writing my TOEFL essay. In almost every entence, I don't know which subject to put:
ONE/HE OR SHE/HE/WE
Sometimes "one" sounds better to me, and sometimes "the person"/"he or she"; however, I know I should be consistent and use only one form.

So I've been told "one" is inappropriate in the TOEFL essay, but it's really uncomfortable for me to repeat "he or she" and "his or her" a million times

[Jamie (K)]

Welcome to the club, Butterfly. We native speakers have the same problem.

If we use "he" as a generic pronoun, the feminists will object. If we keep repeating "he or she", people will complain that we're not producing graceful writing. Feminists want us to use "s/he", but that's a stupid, bureaucratic-looking form, and besides, all it says is "she". For centuries, people have used "they" in that situation -- especially in spoken language -- but if you use that, some grammarian will complain that it's illogical to use a plural pronoun to refer to a singular person. Others say that you should reword the sentence in such a way that you don't have to use gender and number at all, but that's not always possible.

So in that kind of situation, just choose a pronoun you think works, hold your nose, and jump in.