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| zarghuna wrote: |
The thread you have started has really intrigued me. I am a business student and now-a-days we are doing a course in Business Law. Just for fun, our teacher asked us to present any topic related to Law in the class. A couple of my class fellows made a prsentation on the child marraige custom in our country.
Will you believe that even in today's progressive world, there are people who, if the males of their family commit a crime, give away their female child to the offended party? the girl is always less than 15 years of age. She is forced to marry men sometimes as old as her grandfather. Shocking, isn't it? |
What is your government/people doing to solve this problem? |
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| #18 (permalink) Tue Sep 23, 2008 6:16 am What do you think of a young girl marrys a millionaire? |
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| Jamie (K) wrote: |
| One problem in the West is that the men mature emotionally very late, so a younger woman might not have a lot of good choices among men her own age when she wants to marry, so she may decided to choose a man who's older than she is. |
I've heard this one time too many. I wonder why. |
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| #19 (permalink) Tue Sep 23, 2008 9:59 am What do you think of a young girl marrys a millionaire? |
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| Zarghuna, I wonder if the family doesn't have girls how do its members compensate guiltiness of their relative? And what country's custom were you describing here? |
If there are no girls in the family, there are sure to be some girls in the brother's or sister's family. This tradition is followed in some parts of Pakistan but the rate of such incidents has declined in the past few years. In our country we have very closely knit family ties. The whole clan or tribe is considered one family not just the immediate relatives.[/list] |
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| #20 (permalink) Tue Sep 23, 2008 10:07 am What do you think of a young girl marrys a millionaire? |
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| What is your government/people doing to solve this problem? |
This is obviously illegal in my country but still it is practiced in far flung areas. Whenever any such case is reported, strict action is taken against the family of the victim but the dilemma is that these cases are very seldom reported. However with an increase in awareness about women rights, there has been a significant decrease in these cases. |
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| #21 (permalink) Tue Sep 23, 2008 10:25 am What do you think of a young girl marrys a millionaire? |
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As to marrying an older person, I, personally don't find anything to abhor in the idea as long as it stems from genuine affection. It is hard to believe, but people actually do fall in love with persons quite their senior in age.
My mom's aunt and her husband have a difference of 20 years but they are leading a very successful life. When they married, the husband was not financially sound but now they are very well off! |
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| #22 (permalink) Tue Sep 23, 2008 10:35 am What do you think of a young girl marrys a millionaire? |
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| NinaZara wrote: |
| Jamie (K) wrote: |
| One problem in the West is that the men mature emotionally very late, so a younger woman might not have a lot of good choices among men her own age when she wants to marry, so she may decided to choose a man who's older than she is. |
I've heard this one time too many. I wonder why. |
It's sometimes blamed on affluence, but it's often blamed on modern-day feminism stigmatizing traditional masculine behaviors. (I'm talking about modern feminism, not the old women's rights movement.) |
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| #23 (permalink) Tue Sep 23, 2008 17:31 pm What do you think of a young girl marrys a millionaire? |
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| Jamie (K) wrote: |
It's always interesting to point out to such a girl that, after she marries the man, she will be the wife of a man who has already shown he will leave his wife.
Many of the girls don't know how to respond to a remark like that, and others just think their situation is "special". |
Life is unpredictable, Jamie (K), and who knows, maybe there happen such "special" situations (though I doubt that family's happiness in future). In my country people use to say "one can't built ones happiness on the grief of another".
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| What do you think of girls who marry older men who aren't rich? |
What do I think? Of course it happens and they can be even in love with each other, e.g. my grandmom was 10 years junior her husband (but she wasn't happy with him). Also I'm acquainted with several of such courples but the difference in their age is not more than 20-25 years. As to the reasons listed above by you Jamie (K) - also possible and rather of psychological level.
"TO ERR IS HUMAN" - it wasn't me who said this of course, but this saying is always actual and each of us rules his/her own life according to the upbringing and feelings.
P.S. Thanx for the answer, Zarghuna.
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| zarghuna wrote: |
| My mom's aunt and her husband have a difference of 20 years but they are leading a very successful life. When they married, the husband was not financially sound but now they are very well off! |
This is how it should be. On choosing husbands, my mother always tell us girls to not marry for money because a rich man could go bankrupt anytime. It is better to marry a poor man as long as he is ambitious and wants to improve himself. Building life, or even riches, together, is part of what marriage is all about. |
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| #26 (permalink) Thu Sep 25, 2008 16:13 pm What do you think of a young girl marrys a millionaire? |
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I totally agree with that marrying a person who is ambitious and wants to improve himself. In addition, for myself, I'd like to marry with a guy who has a good personality that matches me. Also, sometimes I think people need to train by some poor environment. It's possible that a person who grows up in a very good condition, and s/he may not cherish what s/he has. I mean it would happen more things that you haven't thought probably in the future.
For instance, a famous person and Taiwanese, who is a politician and his family is very very rich. He has said that "The traffic is very good.". However, we, other Taiwanese know that when he goes out, many people do all the things for him, such as a driver drives car for him, so he doesn't need to worry about the traffic. So he thought the traffic was very good, the traffic was not good indeed. But he wouldn't know and he didn't need to know, that was why he said this kind of word.
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Well, it's not easy to define a guy is poor or rich actually. For me, I do prefer to find out a guy who has a basic salary for our home. If a guy is too poor, for instance, he has much debt, I think I won't consider him as well. In my opinion, I do think if my husband and I don't have enough money for our family, it still will occur many bad things in our life. But if my husband and I have enough money to support our family, we lost money later because of some reasonable reasons. In this situation, I'll try to figure out how to recovery our economy with him. I won't give up him except my husband goes to bet and loose money such as this kind of reasons, then I won't accept.
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| #29 (permalink) Thu Sep 25, 2008 19:22 pm What do you think of a young girl marrys a millionaire? |
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| Maggie wrote: |
| Well, it's not easy to define a guy is poor or rich actually. For me, I do prefer to find out a guy who has a basic salary for our home. If a guy is too poor, for instance, he has much debt, I think I won't consider him as well. In my opinion, I do think if my husband and I don't have enough money for our family, it still will occur many bad things in our life. But if my husband and I have enough money to support our family, we lost money later because of some reasonable reasons. In this situation, I'll try to figure out how to recovery our economy with him. I won't give up him except my husband goes to bet and loose money such as this kind of reasons, then I won't accept. |
There are people who make a lot of money and are not rich, because they spend most of their money and get into a lot of debt. There are people with low salaries who are good savers, and they're rich. It's how much you have, not how much you make. |
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| #30 (permalink) Fri Sep 26, 2008 1:54 am What do you think of a young girl marrys a millionaire? |
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| Maggie wrote: |
| Actually, originally, I want to know a female marrying a millionare and she wants his money only, how come she can do that. I know we can see many examples. I simply can't believe it. I mean I can't imagine to live with a guy who I don't love. |
Hi Maggie,
I guess those girls just think differently from us. Maybe they think if they have much money then life will be okay, they will face no problem, life happily ever after (like in the dream land) :lol:, and so on... Well, the fact is money can't guarantee happiness, don't you think so? I've witnessed how rich people still struggling to straighten out their life. So, yeah, there are things that money can't buy and I personally won't give up my priceless lifetime for a mountain of gold :wink:
Life is too good to be wasted with just anybody out there... |
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