Sentence: I also understand that you have loved her so very much, but...

[Shyone]

In a conversation I wrote this sentence:

"I also understand that you have loved her so very much, but if I understand rightly what you are telling about her from time to time, she wouldn't have wanted for you to dwell on it."

But now, looking at it, I wonder, is it grammatically correct?
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[Mister Micawber]

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Well, it is certainly not conversational! Try this:

I know you loved her very much, but if I understand rightly what you're telling me, she wouldn't've wanted you to dwell on it.
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[Shyone]

Thank you.
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[Gray]

[Mister Micawber]

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1) wouldn't've -- I am just curious to know if we could use two apostrophes.-- Sure; I just did.

2) 'what you have been telling me'-- recently (maybe finished, maybe not)
'what you are telling me'-- right now

I know you loved her very much, but if I understand rightly what you have been telling me, she wouldn't've wanted you to dwell on it.

Does 'what you are telling me' connote the action happening right now?-- Yes, in this conversation.
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[Gray]

Thank you! (I wonder why everyone calls you Mr. Micawber!)

A question again --

What do natives prefer -- calling by first name or using Mr. followed by last name? Yes, it may depend on the context and place, so what do you prefer on this forum -- first name or last name?

One more interesting thing I have noticed here on the forum -- no one seems to use Mrs. Someone!


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First lesson - English, not english. I, not i. ~A student of English

[Mister Micawber]

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I prefer that you use my screen name; that is its purpose. Personal information too widely distributed on the internet is a bit dangerous, and because I have been posting so long and so frequently, my real name would be too easily accessible for comfort.

Thank you for adhering to netiquette.

Mister Micawber
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