Roots of social behaviour

[Gray]

I was confused whether this qualifies the category of essays, so keeping it in 'what do you want to talk about?'
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No one is born social. Like everything else, we learn how to socialize or how to interact with people as we grow up. But unlike learning things that are independent, socializing is not just how we comprehend but to large extent it is how others receive us.

Factors that play a major role here are numerous and varies from person to person. But those which are common and have more influence are language, background or social status of the family. Also, understanding among the family members does reflect directly into the social behaviour of its members. Very few could escape the influence family has on its members.

When we step out of the family and enters the crowd of strangers, we carry with ourselves our views of the world derived from the perceptions we got from our near and dear ones. And by that time, we can hardly bring a sea change unless we are surrounded by equally influential social circle of friends, teachers, or colleagues.

We spend a lot of energy seeking what we perceive as better - better than what we are, which leads to friction or conflict. Instead of building on strengths, we succumb to weaknesses. And instead of reaching out to others as we are, we give up under the false impression of turning inwards. We think inside out but in the process we never realize that our eyes are closed.
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First lesson - English, not english. I, not i. ~A student of English

[Kitosdad]

Good morning Gray. Your last paragraph is so very true. Folk do tend to copy that which they see as successful or admirable in others, ignoring that which is present within themselves. Individuality and self-recognition is often thrown aside in a vain attempt to become something that one can never become.

Be true to yourself. Recognise your weaknesses, embrace them, and accept who and what you are. Self-improvement is always to be attempted, but not at the cost of abandoning what is already inherent in oneself.

Kitosdad.
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[Gray]

Good morning Bill. I am glad that you read me and interpret the otherwise far from clear thoughts. Someone has rightly said, "We live in details but we think in generalities".

Have a nice day!
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First lesson - English, not english. I, not i. ~A student of English

[Kitosdad]

You too mate, you too.

Bill.
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If you need me, I'm here.