'disapppointment for sb' or ' disappointment to sb'

[Ginny]

hi :) ,
can i write ' it is a big disappointment to us' ? in this case, we can write ' disappointment for us',can't we? My teacher said that i had to use 'for' but in many dictionaries i find they write 'disappointment to sb' so i don't know exactly how to write. can you give me some explanations? it will be really useful for me.
Regard,

[Mister Micawber]

Yes, you can use either.
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[Alan]

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Hi Ginny,

'A disappointment to us' often refers to the way a relative/son/daughter has behaved - suggesting that they have let you down. 'A disappointment for us' is something which has happened differently from the way you thought it would happen.

Charlie is a disappointment to his parents because he has started drinking too much.

It was a great disappointment for us when we heard that our plans had been rejected.

Alan
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[Ginny]

hi teacher,
thank you very much for your help :D.your explanation is very clear.but...
if i write 'it is a big disappointment to us when we lost the game',am i wrong?