Always telling the truth is the most important consideration in any relationship

[Iyesmoke]

Though a majority of people consider that telling the truth is an essential component in the mechanism of any lasting relationship, there are certain situations in which masking certain aspects may turn out to be a better choice. However, there are many shades of grey when it comes to deciding the parts that should be left out.
When a person asks oneself “what is the most important thing in my relationship?” the answer varies depending on his/her previous relationships, moral values, educational background etc.
In my case, honesty is the most important consideration in a relationship, closely followed by reliability, trust and respect. I have always had a great deal of respect for people that told the truth, regardless of how much it would hurt me, rather than hiding it and me finding out later from other sources. Once I loose confidence in a person, it is practically impossible to go back, because I will always have a sense of insecurity when it came to that person. Even though I can forgive one’s mistakes, I never forget them, and one my trust is lost, it can never be gained back.
However, there are certain situations, such as marriage, in which children may be involved, where compromising is necessary. I consider that if in such a case a person makes a mistake that may have repercussions on the future of the children, that he/she should think twice before telling the truth and the impact it may have on other people’s lives.
In conclusion, always telling the truth in a relationship is a subjective matter for each and every person. For me, real life situations have taught me that people are unpredictable and most of the times disappointing, but that adhering to strong, solid principles is better and safer than deciding what parts to leave out and parts of the truth to keep.

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[Echoecho]

Always telling the truth is the most important consideration in any relationship between people.
Is telling the truth the most important consideration in any relationship? Do people need to tell the truth all the time in any relationship? Is it necessary for people not to tell the truth at some cases? Some people hold that it is required most to tell the truth to deal with any relationship. However, as far as I am concerned, telling the truth is most essential but not the most one, considering different cases.
On one hand, in daily life, it is necessary for people to tell the truth directly because people including parents, friends, and colleagues should be treated by honesty in order to keep the precious and intimate relationship. For example, when your close friends ask about their new clothes and they are not fit them very well, you should give them what are in your mind rather than the compliments, due to their trust in you. Or you could risk your reliable personality when they are told the opposite ideas to yours which is the truth. On the other hand, telling the truth is also significant to the marriage, which is mainly based on honesty. For instance, couples should talk with each other honestly to learn each other well to enhance the marriage, instead of concealing the true sides to cheat each other. Only basing on the honesty can marriages last long.
However, when comes to some cases, telling the truth could be not considered. What is needed is to lie. First, in order to ensure the safety of public or individual, the best choice is to not tell the truth. For instance, the potential terrorism should be destroyed by governments without revealing it to the public. Yet, there must be a panic among the whole society if the truth is informed. The arrestment of crimes is also required to be concealed for the purpose of trapping them successfully. Similarly, if the information are known to the public, crimes could feel freedom to threaten the safety of the society and polices could be not believed any more.
Also for the goals of keeping health and enthusiasm of people, not to tell the truth is required. Take doctor as an example. The doctor who treats the patients with serious illness, such as cancers should lie to them. By doing this, patients could be positive to their situation and end up with totally recovery. Besides, the older can be active and vigorous when others tell them they are not very old. Maybe they can achieve success that they do not have before. Also the young children are encouraged by lying to them that they are not very bad in the exams or good at the communicating, leading to them be positive to their failure in exams or shy in the public.
In sum, indeed, sometimes telling the truth should be taken into consideration when people contact with others in their daily life, like with their close friends, parents, and so on. However, in some situations, not to tell the truth is the better solution, like in the political fields, in the doctors' zone and so forth. Therefore, when deciding whether to tell the truth or not, people should think about the situations they are in.