Do you mind me asking/do you mind my asking dilemma

[NewNyorker]

Hi everyone,

I am new on this forum.
Could someone please tell me which form is correct:
do you mind "me" or "my" asking? Personally, I think "me' is correct but I saw "my" form the other day and I got confused.

Thank you in advance!

[Torsten]

Hi NewNyorker and welcome to our forum,

You have to options of expression your idea:

1) With a relative clause:

Do you mind if I ask?

2) With a verbal noun (gerund):

Do you mind my asking?

In the second construction you have to use the possessive adjective my because it relates to the verbal noun asking.

Let me know if this makes sense to you.
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[NewNyorker]

Thanks a lot for your response:)

I knew "do you mind if I ask" form before but the other one I overheard and wasn't sure about the usage. Until now, of course:)

I've lived in NY for few months now and I must say surprisingly many native speakers make mistakes.

I like this forum, I'm sure I'll be visiting it often. It's well organized and helpful:)

Greetings!