| #2 (permalink) Sun May 09, 2010 10:17 am PPST Writing: An event of life that changed your life
|We have all had experiences that have changed the direction of our lives. These experiences may be momentous or they may be experiences that did not seem significant at the time, yet they changed our lives in some way. Recall such a turning point in your life and present it so that you give the reader a sense of what your life was like before the event and how your life changed after the event.
A turning point is defined as a place that changes our life, radically. It can be physical, as of changing of place or environment, and it can be symbolical, that changes the meaning of our life. Such turning points, the twists and turns become more explicit to oneself, with the passage of time. As one cross the borders of childhood and teenage, peeking back through the days passed by, one may get a number of surprises. It may occur to you that your thoughts were really wrong about an event, although they seemed so right to you at that moment. Also you will become evident of those turns that changed the meaning of your life.
In my case, as of today, I can count a number of turns, physical and symbolical, that tuned, trimmed and groomed my personality. One big twist was my marriage. I can call it an event that occurred so suddenly that I was stunned by my own reactions and feelings. Although, as I lived in the same vicinity even after marriage, the immediate twist was only a symbolic one. The physical change occurred years later after my marriage. Here I will explain only the symbolic effect of my marriage.
As an Asian and Pakistani, an arranged marriage, is not odd for me. So, when my father consulted me about the proposal and showed his approval, I gave my consent too. However I was then doing my bachelors. My to be husband, agreed that I should continue my engineering, and he would return to America, where he was doing his business.
Till that moment, it was all very simple. I did not know that this stranger will become so important to me, within a few days. I enjoyed this new relationship and spent a month with him. But, as soon as he returned, we both were more than perturbed and lonely. I was unable to concentrate on my studies. My feelings have suddenly changed from being a free, irresponsible student and daughter, to a rather mature girl who likes to change and adorn herself in accordance to her husband's likings. Accepting compromises became tangible.
This all was new to me then. I learnt to manage and work in difficulties. I learnt to concentrate on my work at times when it seemed impossible to do so. I became quite responsible and confident too. My attitude towards my education and home took a major turn. I could easily compare that with my colleagues and friends who were so care-free and at the same time, so aimless.
At that time, I felt that I took a wrong decision in getting married, and the long distance relationship was continuously bothering me in my studies. But today, when I look back, I can tell without a doubt, that it was a very timely decision. The maturity and confidence, the planning of the future and achieving aims, being practical and seeing achievable dreams, accepting compromises and remaining peaceful, finding real world solutions at difficult times, I found all these qualities inside me and they groomed my personality.
My marriage was such a great turning point of my life. Today, I believe that deciding on an early marriage is a far better decision to make than a late one. At a young age, one can easily do compromises, can mould and adopt new characteristics and can adjust in different and utterly new environments. This event in my life really changed the meaning of the world to me.
Another excellently written essay Kulsoom. Please refer to my PM.
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