How good are you at making conversation?

[Minud9]

[Kati Svaby]

Hello Minud,

Many thanks for your letter. Once I read that you look after your old aged parents. It is very rare nowadays. I hear day in day out that children send their parents in old people's home. They visit them very rarely. It is very sad. Sometimes we can watch on TV documentaries about these old people. Heart-breaking sight.

I don't say anything but I think the world changed. My grandparents lived with us till they died. My parents lived in their own home, because they could look after themselves but we every day called them and when we could we went to see them.

xxxx

Today I go to the theatre with my friend whose husband died for a half a year ago. I wasn't in theatre for about 2 years. We'll see: Platon: Socrates pleading.

Regards:
Kati Svaby
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[Livelongwa]

Hi Alan,
For sure am not that much talkative, but it happen some occasion that I will do so, I am shopkeeper, I serve many customers, at the begin I used not to talk, I would just listen to his/her demand and provide his/ or her with the service, but later on, the number of attendant get dinishing, I then wanted to know what could be the reason. I did some follow up on some of my customers whom for sure we have a little bit of understanding in regards, that I can sometime give them services on credit and pay me back at the end of the month ones the get their salaries. They told customer are coplain cause you are so calm. the by having introduced to the forum hope I will gain new words and tactics to talk to

[Maryjam]

It's a very interesting forum:)
Sometimes I'm talkative (in my mother tongue), but sometimes...when it is needed the most, I'm not.
Some years ago (maybe 2) happende an unusual situation with me. (It’s usual, that unusual situations happen with me).
I met in a shop with a seller and we were both impressed with each other…
I do not really know her.(I know very little) Earlier she worked as a shopkeeper or a seller...but she still not works there...I always wanted to talk with her, (and it seemed to me, that she also), but we never talked...and now I regret that I did not say any (pleasant) words...and now I don't know what to do...She was a really interesting and very special person (if I can say it for person) I’ve ever met.
Can you give me any advice?

[Maryjam]

Tank you forward:)

[Livelongwa]

Cheers,
The topic is nice for grand experience
Thanks for your great effort on educating the world

[Rsrlopera]

You want to know how good I'm at making conversation. Well I'm a very open minded and I like to tell stories about myself, of course when I meet some one for the first time. I have no problem having conversation with anybody, but I do not talk about religion or politic, because that always ends up in an argument. So, I feel that I have no problem in making conversation with anybody. I like people that are as open as I'm so we can tell each other about us. Besides of talking about myself I love to talk about movies, because I love movies as well actors and actresses. I also like to talk about music, in fact I like to talk about life in general. I live in New York, to me it's the most fantastic City in the world. I have visited many other countries in Europe as well in South America, The Bahamas, and many more. So as you can see I have a lot to talk about. My life alone it's a very long book. I hope some day I will write a Memoir. I do have my bio. already done, but I have to wait a little longer to make into a Memoir.
For now that it's all I will tell you, but you can ask me any question and I'll be happy to answer.

Best regards to everyone

Rosario L.
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Rosario L.

[Kati Svaby]

Szia Marian,

Sokat eszembe jutsz. Mi van veled? Remélem nincs semmi bajod. Túl vagy a vizsgáidon? Ha lesz egy kis időd, légy szíves írni egy pár sort, mert nagyon érdekelne mi van veled.

Minden jót! Szeretettel:
Kati
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[Alan]

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Hi Kati,

Lost on me, I'm afraid. Can you read this aloud as we might as well hear it as well as read it.

Alan
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[Kati Svaby]

Hello Alan,

I tried to read out my letter to Marian but the JAVA didn't work well. As you see that I could listen to your record only once and it counted 11 times.
I translate my letter to Marian:

[Kati Svaby]

Hello Alan,

As I became older I like making conversation. When I was younger I was very shy to begin a conversation in a strange company.On Satturday we were invited for a birthday party. I know only few people. But those people to whom I began to make a conversation we get to know each other soon and without inhibation we could speak to each other about every things without inhibation.

I was very happy because our host called my husband this evening and told him that the people told about me what a free and easy manner I have.

I was very happy and I said to my husband they have also free and easy manner. "It takes two to tango."- doesn't it.
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[Rsrlopera]

Hi Alan,

I already wrote about making conversation, but I didn't get any reply from you, I never do. Can you tell me what I'm doing wrong why I don't get any reply about so many things I have talk about, and so many questions I have ask you?
I'll very happy to hear from you. I just sent you an email.

Regards,

Rosaro
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Rosario L.

[Sarabella]

Hello Alan,
Hello everyone,
It was interesting to see this topic because today I've experienced something related to that topic you are talking about.I can say I'm a talkative person ,I even talk too much but according to the person who am talking to.Actually,I'm too shy person ,do you see that contradiction? IT might be but I will be more clear about that,usually I talk very easily with people I know not very close knowledge but it's enough for me to see someone for only one time to become friends with him or her,there is something happened regarding conversing with strangers.Today,I had an extra work at my school so I didn't went home with my Friends as I am used to,so I get into the bus alone and beside me sit a young man who began to ask me general questions about the school,at the very beginning ,he thought I am a student like him and he got surprised when he knew that I'm a teacher not a student and hence the conversation between us broadened and I talked with him naturally and I got nothing in my mind but just talking and be nice with people and that's all,he got that in a wrong way and his questions began to go another way, he began to ask very personal questions ,I didn't want to embarrass him by simply refuse to answer but I answered him gently because I don't want to embarrass him and I thought he might be talking and meaning anything bad,then he began to say some words that I didn't like it ,like saying"You are very pretty ,how come until now you are single!" well,In my culture its not good to say something like that so it was passing the limits of polite conversation from him,then at the end he asked for my phone number! I bravely refused it-well at the end I became brave :D- but I felt upset about that way and I asked myself was I wrong when I talked with a stranger! because some people get the spontaneous actions soemthing else..well,it was part of my day and I wanted to share it with you.Also ,at work,when I act spontaneously ,my colleagues get it wrongly and began to act rudely because the got my actions in another way.I don't know who is right and who is wrong but I act the way I really am and I can't be someone else but myself .well,I want to say that I felt happier when I talked with you now :)

[Kkebe]

Dear Alan

I have to thank you so much for sharing your story, time, energy and sense of humor.

I really enjoyed reading the topic converse. I also learned a lot from reading everyone posting. I love to talk to people, although I am not a talkative person, but I like to keep conversation going. Sometime a sudden silence takes over in the middle of good conversation, and it gives me anxiety. I think a lot about how to break the silence and start back the conversation. Sometimes I manage to keep the conversation flow other times do not know what to do.

I used to be afraid to start a conversation with strangers because I was very shy. Through practice and prayer now I am able to start a conversation with just about anybody, and it feels really good. Those of you who are shy or used to be shy know what exactly I am talking about.

Regards,

kk

[Kati Svaby]

Hello Sarabella,

Nice to meet you. Your letter is a very characteristic description, how people are apt to misunderstand the others’ sincerity. If you are a kind person and you can’t be other what you are, and you answer easily for the questions of a strange man, you can get in a situation that you will be misunderstood. He perhaps thought you are a fast woman but he could think also that he would like to get to know you better. Who knows?

Misunderstanding can happen with you when you use your mother tongue, and more easily it can happen if you speak/write in English. Unfortunately I was not once misunderstood here on the Forum, and of course I misunderstood some people, me also.

For example I correspond with somebody who I got to know here on the Forum and I had to write to him in my first letters “ Pardon my English, and you have to know that I never want to offend you, if something seems insulting it happened because I couldn’t express myself well. Please ask how I thought this for that I could clear up."

If we speak our mother tongue – not once happened, even with my husband – that he misunderstood me. I had to clear up the misunderstanding. It requires lot of apologies for my conduct.

I have altogether two friends who both were my colleagues (two women) as I used to be a teacher me also who NEVER misunderstood me and I NEVER misunderstood them.

Its reason can be that a teacher meets every kind of children and slowly they are able to see and understand the truth about other people. Not every teacher but lot of them become a teacher of great insight.

Bye: Kati
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