Adjective is associated with -ed or with -ing

[Huda2]

hi,
I don't know when the adjective is associated with ed or with ing

ex.: the dog's habit of barking was extremely (annoying or annoyed)
the man was (startling or startled) by the noise in the bushes
the woman was (embarrasing or embarrased) by the behaviour of her child
which one in each is right?
as I know the adjective be with ed if follow the object and be with ing if follow the subject
right?

thanks

[Milanya]

The habit was annoying, I was annoyed
The man was startled by the noise, the noise was startling
Teh woman was embarassed, the kid's behavior was embarassing
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con·text - The part of a text or statement that surrounds a particular word or passage and determines its meaning.

[Huda2]